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I am from the Philippines and currently base in KL to work in an OG engineering company for 4 years already. I love to travel to places but should be within my budget.

Focus on your Little One and not the Labor Pains!

Jakob is the best thing that’s happened to us this year 2016 despite the challenges that we have been facing right now. He came out of the womb and experience the outside world at 2:45pm on the 16th of January, the day after my mother-in-law’s birthday and on the day my mother celebrated her birthday.  How cool is that?!

On the eve of my delivery, at around 8pm-10pm, I and my other pregnant friend were surprised because our friends gave us baby shower.  Blessings poured out on that day. We shared laughter; we ate and opened our baby gifts. Later that night, laughter died down as we found our way to bed.

But past midnight (around 1am), I felt cramps at the back of my hips. This gave me discomfort during my sleep.  I thought it was just Brixton Hicks contractions. But these were at a 5-minute interval.  Good thing, it was not that painful but it really disrupted my sleep. I did not sleep well until the morning. I didn’t eat well at that time because I didn’t have the appetite. Sometimes I felt like vomiting.

And at 10am in the morning, I decided to go to Prince Court Medical Centre because the cramps just wouldn’t go away.  We hurried and took my hospital bag, which was already prepared when I was still at my 26th week of pregnancy and went directly to the hospital. We arrived 10 minutes later. By the way, I was in my 29th week at this time.

Then, we directly went to the labor room, as instructed by my OB when I still had my regular check-ups.  And a nurse brought me inside and let me lay down the bed. Only my husband accompanied me as only one visitor could come with me inside the labor room.  My mother, my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law waited outside the room.  The nurse had me strapped with a medical apparatus which I believe would measure the strength of my contractions.  And when she already had the info what she needed that time, she then reported to my OB and later came back with the instruction to do the needful. At first, she inserted something inside my rectum and squirted some fluid which would make me poop all that’s left in there.  After a while, I discharged a watery poop. Later, she also injected me with something which, she said, would speed up my labor and would make my contractions stronger.  After a few minutes, I felt these contractions becoming stronger and more frequent.

Every minute, the pain became unbearable. I thought grabbing the shirt of my husband would ease the pain that I felt at that moment. But I was wrong! The nurse in charge kept on asking me if I would like an epidural or an injection that would ease the labor pains. I was so brave that I told her no. I would like to feel the pain of natural childbirth not knowing that the intravenous fluid flowing through my veins was continuously adding strength to the contractions and could later give so much pain afterwards.

By 1pm, I could feel something was already coming out. So, I asked the nurse to measure how many cm I was dilated.  She told me it’s still 5cm. I can’t believe I still have a long way to go. We still have to wait 10cm before I could push.  But the pain I still could manage. But after maybe around 30minutes, I really wanted to push.  The nurse checked, it was still 6cm and said it was not the time to push yet. It was too early. In my mind, I said, “What?!!! It felt hours of pain already but still 6cm?! Gosh!”  After a while, the pain was getting even worse and more frequent.  So I thought of having myself injected to ease the pain.  So the nurse did.  But it was too late.  I could not catch my breath anymore.  The nurse gave me some kind of oxygen to breathe. I felt like at that time, I was half conscious and half unconscious. My husband always asked me if I was ok and I always gave him a thumb up.  He was worried sick so he always asked the nurse if my condition was normal and if I was ok. The nurse replied to not panic and that I was ok. But suddenly the pain was so unbearable that a little while I passed out. And I woke up again hearing myself screamed and shouted because of pain.  I could hear my OB and two other nurses inside the delivery room already telling me to push, when not to push, when to get ready to push and when to stop pushing. The pain was really awful, I would say, because I didn’t expect it to be like this.  I even shouted and screamed at the top of my lungs but managed to shout it in English.  Just so you’ll know, I am Filipino who’s comfortable speaking my own language.  But I want the people inside the delivery to know that the pain was so excruciating that I felt like I was dying. By the way, this was my first.  I really had no idea. I thought it was the end of me.  But not yet.  Not like this.  I was still going to have a baby who’s gonna need me.  I still wanted to experience the joy of being a mother to a son.

And suddenly, the pain died down.  I could hear my OB telling me to keep still because he was going to have me stitched.  Then, slowly, they placed my little one on my chest. At last I am mom now!”  I could not contain the joy seeing my little one. (Image below is my Jakob, our adorable Jakob.  And beside him is the oxygen that helped me breathe.)

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I wanted to cry but could not.  The pain I felt got me confused.  I never heard my baby cry when the labor was over.  It must be of the horrendous pain that I felt. My husband told me that the first thing my baby did was pee” After having skin-to-skin moment with my little one, he was put in the nursery.  Then a nurse cleaned me up.  She told me that I was overmedicated.  I believe it was the intravenous fluid that made the pain so unbearable.  Another nurse instructed me something about the patch that I was going to wear and my baby as well.  But I could hardly understand her. I was still in shock of the pain. I really needed to rest.  But when my mother, mother-in-law, and sister-in-law were already allowed inside the delivery room, I was ecstatic to tell them everything that I went through. I literally lost my mind. Hahaha.  But only for a while. By the way, I really admired the 2 nurses who had supported me all throughout the labor.  They encouraged me and thought me how to endure the labor pains.

One thing that I learned in this experience is you really have to discuss with your OB beforehand the consequences of the medication they will inject in you.  Because after I delivered my baby, he told me to consider an epidural next time.  I should have known what an induced labor was. I remembered him telling me that.   Always ask your OB everything that you don’t understand.  Do not hesitate!  By the way, Dr. Paul Tay was my OB and he was actually very good. But anything can happen no matter how good your doctor is.  One thing that also contributed to the horrendous pain of my labor, as the nurse said, I was overmedicated.  The other nurse who initially took care of me got me overmedicated and almost had me there at the end.  But that won’t matter so much now because my little one is alive and healthy.  That’s what matters the most now. And by the way, do not forget to say your prayers for a safe delivery!  Remember to practice your breathing.  You can many videos on youtube. Focus on the prize (your little one) and not on the labor pains.

Choose to Do Things You Love

“You can choose what you do; But you can’t choose what you like to do.”

Yes, I can choose which things to do.  I can choose to dance, to sing, to travel around the world,  to read books, to write, to work, to speak in front of people, to do some sports like badminton, billiards, volleyball or bowling,  and to engage myself in business. Or simple things like cooking, cleaning the house, washing the dishes and arranging things. I can choose to do these things but I can’t choose which of these things I like to do.  Like I cannot force myself to like cooking or clean the house. I can’t tell myself to like speaking in front of people, or to do sports like bowling.

For me, choosing to do things I love is easier said than done.  Because, sometimes, I also find it confusing or difficult to decide which things I love to do or which things I don’t like doing.  And because my decisions are sometimes affected by the people around me, by the fears that I have, and by the weaknesses that I have.

I have tried to come up with this list on how to identify if you love something or not.  Maybe this will help for those who also find it difficult to decide.

  • If a thing sticks in your mind for a long time, then that might be a sign you really love that thing.  It never gets off your mind.
  • It keeps you excited thinking about it.
  • You have the burning desire to do it.
  • Try to list down the things you don’t love doing and if it’s not on list then it must be something you like. (Hehehe)
  • It really thrills you unassumingly.
  • You don’t care about what others say.
  • You don’t care if you fail many times doing that thing.  Just for the love of doing it makes you wanna do more.

Now, there you go.  If you still have something to add, do not hesitate to comment.

Be Grateful Everyday

Everyday is an opportunity to be grateful for the things and blessings that you have received.

Instead of the thinking about the mishaps and the negatives in your life, count all the things or blessings big or small that you are grateful for.  In this way, you will be able appreciate what you have in your life and you will be able to magnify these.

Helping Others Succeed

Helping other people succeed is one of the most fulfilling and satisfying feeling a person can experience.

Some people, I believe, help others because of the popularity that they may gain later or maybe because they want something in return.  Some also want to gain dominance over the benefactor. If people help others because of the reasons stated above, you should try helping others once for the sake of helping.  And maybe you’ll find fulfillment deep inside your soul. Let us try our best not to be shallow.

Desa Water Park at Taman Danau Desa, Malaysia

At 40 RM, one can enjoy the amenities offered by this water park.

You will surely get wet in this water park. Be sure to bring extra clothes and undies.  Here’s the list of the water rides and slides I have tried.

  1. Shock Wave. I really had fun here because it felt like I was floating in the sea with waves  pushing me through the shore.shock waveshock wave 2
  2. Super Tube.  This one was really awesome. I got to ride many times here. Though you have to rent a floater.super tube
  3. Tarzan in Town.  This one was quite difficult.  We had to  climb up to a series of floating logs which was anchored with a rope at the bottom of the pool.   We only had to hold on to a rope hanging above us. What was really challenging here was keeping our balance until we reached the other side of the pool.tarzan in town
  4. Thunder Bolt.  We had to wait  a specific time, around 2pm if my memory serves me right just to enjoy this fun ride.  It’s a ride you don’t really wanna miss.thunder bolt 2thunder bolt1
  5. Action River.  If you want a relaxing ride, try this one out.  Just wear your sunblock because it is really hot while floating around this flowing water going around.action river
  6. Water Factory. This one is great for kids.  Two water slides available here. Be sure to accompany your kids.water factory

I must have miss some rides since some were closed for renovation or were not functioning at that time.

Here’s the list.

  • Bubble Pool
  • Ripple Bay
  • Surf Shack
  • Baby Wave
  • Water Factory
  • Pink Slide
  • Clown-A-Round

The Best Place to Buy Souvenirs and Chocolates in KL

Hanifa for Chocolates and Petaling Street for Souvenir Items

  1. Hanifa’s address is 149 Jalan Masjid India, 50100 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.  You can get there by bus, by train or by taxi. You can find many chocolates and other goods in a very affordable prices.
  2. If you plan to buy souvenir items like key chains, miniature buildings and a lot more, do not buy inside the malls.  It can be a bit pricey.  Petaling Street or often called Chinatown sells affordable souvenir items.  You can also find shirts with Malaysia prints for only 5-10 RM.