Category Archives: Better Self

Never Forget the People Who Know You More Than Anyone Else in the World

“Ohana means family.  Family means nobody gets left behind….or forgotten.”  ~Lilo and Stitch

Never neglect your real family in life because they are the ones who will stand by your side in times of trials.  They don’t judge you and will accept you for who you really are.


Choose to Do Things You Love

“You can choose what you do; But you can’t choose what you like to do.”

Yes, I can choose which things to do.  I can choose to dance, to sing, to travel around the world,  to read books, to write, to work, to speak in front of people, to do some sports like badminton, billiards, volleyball or bowling,  and to engage myself in business. Or simple things like cooking, cleaning the house, washing the dishes and arranging things. I can choose to do these things but I can’t choose which of these things I like to do.  Like I cannot force myself to like cooking or clean the house. I can’t tell myself to like speaking in front of people, or to do sports like bowling.

For me, choosing to do things I love is easier said than done.  Because, sometimes, I also find it confusing or difficult to decide which things I love to do or which things I don’t like doing.  And because my decisions are sometimes affected by the people around me, by the fears that I have, and by the weaknesses that I have.

I have tried to come up with this list on how to identify if you love something or not.  Maybe this will help for those who also find it difficult to decide.

  • If a thing sticks in your mind for a long time, then that might be a sign you really love that thing.  It never gets off your mind.
  • It keeps you excited thinking about it.
  • You have the burning desire to do it.
  • Try to list down the things you don’t love doing and if it’s not on list then it must be something you like. (Hehehe)
  • It really thrills you unassumingly.
  • You don’t care about what others say.
  • You don’t care if you fail many times doing that thing.  Just for the love of doing it makes you wanna do more.

Now, there you go.  If you still have something to add, do not hesitate to comment.

Be Grateful Everyday

Everyday is an opportunity to be grateful for the things and blessings that you have received.

Instead of the thinking about the mishaps and the negatives in your life, count all the things or blessings big or small that you are grateful for.  In this way, you will be able appreciate what you have in your life and you will be able to magnify these.

Helping Others Succeed

Helping other people succeed is one of the most fulfilling and satisfying feeling a person can experience.

Some people, I believe, help others because of the popularity that they may gain later or maybe because they want something in return.  Some also want to gain dominance over the benefactor. If people help others because of the reasons stated above, you should try helping others once for the sake of helping.  And maybe you’ll find fulfillment deep inside your soul. Let us try our best not to be shallow.

Like to Gossip? You’d Better Think Twice.

Why do we like to gossip?  Is it a reflection of our weakness, frustration or jealousy? How to avoid gossip and making trouble because of gossip?

I admit I have also said bad things about someone.  Sometimes, when a person has done something wrong towards us and since we do not have the courage to tell them straight, what we do is we unconsciously revenge by pointing out some bad things and tell it to other people to make us feel better than the other person who has done wrong to us. Or worst is, we make up things to ruin their reputation or we are critical of their actions. 

Here are the reasons I think why people gossip:

  • We feel inferior or we lack confidence that’s why want to feel that we are better than others.
  • We envy others so we make unjust judgements on their actions.
  • We want to take revenge of what others have done to us.

How to avoid gossip and making trouble because of gossip? I got this list from the sermon by a pastor this morning.

  • Get the facts straight.
  • Let us handle gossip appropriately.
  • Never surmise evil.
  • And, most importantly, love your neighbours as what 1st Corinthians 13:4-7 tells you to do.

So, let us be careful of what comes out of our mouth because it will not only reflect of who you truly are but will also make you into trouble.

Pure Heart


Pure Heart

Last Sunday (17.08.14), I and my husband went to church in Cheras and it was our first time there. Who could have thought that the sermon would turn out to be a good one. It did not focused on religion but instead on personal betterment, on spirituality and on personal relationship with God.

He discussed one of the beatitudes in the Bible. His discussion was mainly on the passage in Matthew 5:8 “Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.” I totally agree with the pastor about not comparing ourselves with others when it comes to anything especially about integrity because if we do, we become frustrated. Instead, focus on God alone. In that, we will be humbled. We should also strive to be more like God who is Holy. And for me this is so difficult because I am a sinner.

The preaching also emphasized on spending sometime alone, to be with God and to meditate.

What exactly does it mean to have a pure heart? In my point of view, having a pure heart means not thinking bad about others, not comparing yourself to others, not thinking you’re better than others, doing good things to others out of nothing and you do it because it feels good afterwards, doing something without deceiving others, not speaking bad about others and not wanting to hurt others. It is mainly how you deal with your neighbors. And we can acquire these by focusing on pleasing God and not men. Pleasing men often confuses us what to do and often leads us to sin such as greed, pride, envy, etc. It will also make you feel less and you will feel angry with yourself.